We have felt so much pressure from everyone around us to get engaged and now its all about setting a date and most people want us to marry very soon. Everyone has an opinion on where we get married and what we do, who to invite and what to wear. And to add to this stress we really aren't in a financial position right now to wed. I want to travel more, he wants a bike, we need a new family car and want to buy a house. It's just not possible to do all these things if we rush a wedding and spend a small fortune of our savings on it, or worse still go into debt. It's all so overwhelming.
I feel that there has been an odd shift in society where people just have babies with someone before the wed or before they truly know the person. So many of them stay together and marry when it might not have been the thing they would have done without the child. I have had many friends say to me "we probably would have walked away years ago if it wasn't for the children." I think this is so sad, why compromise on your relationship and your life long happiness.
It's very surprising to me how many marriages end in divorce. I'm not sure if it's because people know that they have an exit out now or if maybe it's because people rush in at a young age. I just know I don't want to be a statistic. I want my marriage to stand the test of time.
We have decided that we want to wait... we met each other at 18 and we still are very young in our eyes. We have much more living to do and we feel like our lives got put on hold when Ev got so sick with his epilepsy, broken back and the major accident that broke his femur and left him with a titanium rod in his leg. We want to enjoy life and be ready for a wedding when the time comes. So maybe now rather then 2 years we are looking at 3 or maybe 4. It's our life and we have every right to wait {even if no one agrees with us}
But that's the beauty of it... it's our choice.
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